Since my parents moved to town, I have learned that I still have some learning to do. In my mind, I am a young, sophisticated, and independent woman. What else could I possibly need to learn???
Here’s the 1st lesson I’ve learned since they have been here: Say What You Mean…Mean What You Say. Sounds simple…but it’s really not. I’m realizing that I’m flaky. YES. Flaky. The worst kind of flaky too. I tell people all of the time that I will be somewhere or do something and then I don’t do it. I make excuses and all sorts of explanations of why I didn’t or can’t do something that I said I would do.
My parents did not sit me down to teach me this lesson…they simply believed me when I told them that I would come over to their house. No follow up phone call to double-check that I would come. They just sat by the door and waited for me. I was so convicted because I knew I couldn’t back out or cancel at the last minute (like I normally do). If I even mention in a casual conversation…”I’ll swing by on Friday”…then at the end of the conversation, they say “OK, we will see you on Friday.” Period. I said it. If I said it, I must have meant it. If I meant it, then I surely will do it…right?
I thought about all of the things my parents said they would do (like move to Denver). All of the promises they have made, they have kept. I have no reason to doubt them when they tell me that they will do something or be somewhere. It is so comforting to know that you can rely on someone’s word. No second-guessing if they will show up or cancel on you. No awkward conversations. No broken promises. No leading people on. Right now, my word isn’t worth much, but I’m going to change that. My word will be my bond…I’m looking forward to this!
Tags: Broken Promises, Learning, Life, Love, Parents, Promises
integrity is a toughy sometimes.
OUCH – it really does come down to integrity doesn’t it!
I struggle with it as well
I think in truth, most of us do in our age group.
I agree with Josh, it seems to be an accepted flaw in our age group. I know that I am the worst about making plans and getting out of them. I can never just say “I am not going”, I always say yes, then I regret it and feel guilty. It is pretty ridiculous.
a few years back a good friend of mine called me on this not so great quality. it was one of the most humbling conversations i’ve ever had. ever since that day, i really try to be better at my keeping my word. but it’s a daily effort. great post. very honest and i’m sure a ton of people can relate.
I’m working on this as well